In 1991 I met John Maxwell for the first time. I was at a leadership conference at church. Before that, I had been in some form of leadership position since I graduated from high school in 1982. My father, who was the greatest leader to me, taught me about how to treat others. That day as I listened to John Maxwell teach, he sparked something more in me and I knew that my desire to be a leader was more than a job, it was what I wanted to do in my life. I wanted to make a difference in other people’s lives. It wasn’t called intentional living then, but for me, it was a decision to show that your actions were louder than your words. The quote by John Maxwell “Leadership is not about titles, positions or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another,” has stuck with me.
On day 6 of the seven day experiment, “Surprise People with How Much They Matter”, John challenges us to tell someone you haven’t told what they mean to you. That day I realized there was a friend whom I love dearly who I hadn’t told that in many years. I guess life gets in the way and we just expect them to know, you always have you always will. That day I called her and told her that she had made me a better person just having her in my life. She taught me things I could of never learned without her and she mattered to me more than words can express. Not only did that call make a difference to her, but it changed me. It made me stop and realize all the people I forget to say thank you to and how much they matter to me.